We're all Different.

Wednesday saw this speech go viral as Caitlyn Jenner receive the Arthur Ashe Courage Award at the ESPYS 2015.

Jenner had spent the past few months undergoing extreme operations and hormone changes to become the woman she is today, with the support of her family and publicity (see earlier posts on Jenner's transformation).

Looking absolutely wonderful, Caitlyn moved many to tears as she opened up about her journey to womanhood. This eye opening speech gave transgender individuals a voice that perhaps they did not have before. Gracefully elaborating on the hardships that she herself has faced, Jenner elaborated on the importance of supporting one another through our hardships. Not only did she highlight the prejudice towards transgender individuals, but she also shed light on the importance of embracing being different. I think this is a message that is not spread nearly enough, and I respect Jenner for saying it and CNN for airing it and thus showing their support.

I try my best every day to be more accepting than the day I was before, as we are taught from such a young age by our culture to judge others based on their looks, materialistic objects, gender, race and behaviour. I have read such awful comments about this video, but none are about the message Jenner is trying to spread. Whether you feel that what she has done with her body is right or wrong, there is something in this speech that everyone can learn from. 

It is sad to think that people can't open their eyes to the wonder that is us, human beings. Caitlyn is right, we should all be here for each other, helping each other along through this meandering journey we call life. 

'we're all different, that's not a bad thing'. Caitlyn Jenner, 2015


Free The Nipple

Okay okay so I am  little late to this party, but none the less I wanted to comment. 

I have been eagerly following the #freethenipple campaign since Scout Willis paraded the streets of New York topless. I have long been a supporter of free nipples and bare chests. I grew up with a rather cool mother (I suppose some of you would use the word liberal, but I like to stick to cool, as it's more suitable). I hated clothes, so spent as little time as possible in them, and she was cool with that, in fact she is the one who taught me that, at the end of the day, a body is just a body.

She was a seventies kid, her parents were London hippies. I am pretty sure this laid the foundations for my mothers free thinking. At seventeen she and a friend paraded the streets topless for a day (until someone crashed their car, to which they responded by hastily covering themselves). Their reason for doing so? It was fucking hot, and that's it. That should be it, except when a woman presents bare skin to the public, we bizarrely respond by saying she is 'asking for it' (By the way, even legally speaking, if you lie in the middle of a crowded room naked with your legs open, you are STILL not asking for it, no matter what anybody says).

My nipples have a key purpose, to feed my future children. I am personally a massive boob appreciator, I think they are a beautiful feature of a woman's anatomy, but that does not make them dirty. I find it so hard to understand this weird concept that because they are sexually appealing to people that they are instantly inappropriate for anyone to see before watershed. It should be the way in which they are portrayed that is monitored- if we showed a little more acceptance to something so natural in our culture, I reckon it would remould the future generations to gain respect and appreciation for the human body. At the moment we are ashamed of it, using our physical attributes against one another and comparing body parts as if we were at a meat market.

I have to hand it to the luxury fashion industry, they are the only ones who have delved into the world of nudity as an appreciation of the human body rather than the sexualisation of it. I have seen many a nipple, but none, I feel, are for stimulation. They are simply part of the outfit. I have to stress here I am personally all for being sexualised, as well as using the body as an expression of art, my problem here is that our culture says it's not our choice.

Working for what feels like centuries in retail, I know all too well that men are absolutely fine getting changed in the middle of a store without anyone batting an eyelid, but as soon as a woman begins to undress, she becomes the speculation of the whole store. Why? The gents get to do it? Apparently it's distracting or considered indecent exposure. Like the whole breastfeeding-gate.. Oh no, don't get me started again! I'm gonna start getting my tits out more often, unfortunately I know I will receive a lot of negative attention.

 Anyways, food for thought, #freethenipple D x


Advice to Young Women From the Red Carpet

'Womanhood is you.'

As always, D x



Serena Williams: A Champion

Congratulations to Serena Williams for winning her sixth title at Wimbledon Tennis Tournament and her 21st Grand Slam!

Serena has made history, which isn't so bad for a comeback! Which makes it even more perturbing that something so inspiring has been met with both racist and sexist comments.

A man by the name 'Rob' responded to Serena's success on twitter by suggesting that 'the main reason for her success is that she is built like a man'. Can we take a moment to let that sink in? Serena is a strong, healthy and extremely fit woman, At what point do these physical attributes lend to a mans physique?

Comments like this are a regular occurrence in the sporting world unfortunately, and it's not the only time that Serena's physical appearance has been scrutinized. In response to her win at the French open in June, one individual took to twitter to express their 'opinion', stating that Serena "looks like a gorilla, and sounds like a gorilla when she grunts while hitting the ball. In conclusion, she is a gorilla". I can't even begin to respond to this racist, judgmental and completely degrading comment.

Poor Serena has been subjected this this sort of idiocy throughout her career (which unfortunately is completely expected if you live your life in the public eye). My favourite idiot is Matthew Norman- unfortunately his career has not suffered for writing this degrading piece for the online Telegraph back in 2006. His comments are so bizarre it's as if he has some sort of mixed fear-fascination with Williams' chest, as it seems to be the only thing he could write about!

'Can a woman, however talented, carry the equivalent of John Prescott and Nicholas Soames in her bra cups, and Scythe her way through a Grand Slam' Norman states on Serena's participation in the Australian Open in January 2006. 'Generally' he adds, 'I'm all for chunky sports stars... but tennis requires a mobility Serena cannot hope to achieve while lugging around breasts that are registered to vote in a different US state from the rest of her'.

I'm pretty sure Norman would defend his comments and label them 'controversial', but I just call it 'being a prick'.

One last piece I just have to share is written by A WOMAN. Yes, women can be sexist towards other women, and bless their poor little brains they don't even realise it. Amy Roberts for the Daily Mail Australia published a piece back in February that focused more the fact that Serena Williams wore spanx (SHOCK HORROR) than the fact that she was holding a whopping great trophy, and looking damn good doing it. Roberts does compliment Williams, stating that she 'has a to die-for physique' but added that 'even the world number one's sometimes need the help of Spanx to smooth out her killer curves'.

Now, I am all for celebrating the beauty of others, and I know this comment is to make other women feel better, but I just don't get it. If I wrote this piece, it would probably mention atleast a dozen times how awesome having a trophy that big is and how well it suits her! Am I wrong? I like to think I'm not the only one who feels this way, after all you wouldn't have reporters deliberating on David Beckham's underwear choice over his professional success!

Luckily we have loads of awesome people such as JK Rowling, Harry Potter author, who also feel Serena Williams has had enough. She took to twitter to respond to Rob (mentioned earlier) after she  also found the comment stupendous. Sharing Rob's comment to her 4.9 Million Twitter followers, JK tweeted a picture of Serena (below) adding, "Yeah, my husband looks just like this in a dress. You're an idiot,"

I like that response.. and once again Serena, Bravo for Wimbledon. Peace out, D x
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